In the aftermath of the Royal Wedding, where we saw pageboys holding the veil train, an animated American preacher giving a sermon inside a British church, no ‘grown up’ attendants and a bride on her way to her Prince stand alone at the doors to the church, we at Wedmother Towers are now talking about the changing face of weddings.
Of course not all of these things are necessarily new, but they are definitely unique to a Royal Wedding.
Being a Fairy Wedmother means, as you know, I am in love with all things wedding. My heart absolutely swelled as Meghan stood there, alone but for two young pageboys holding her train and a glut of gorgeous young boys and girls in mini Harry outfits and simple yet stunning dresses and walked towards her Prince. ALONE. How her heart must have been beating. How her hands must have been shaking. Anyone who has walked that aisle knows how she was feeling but unless you’ve married a Prince and had it watched by billions of people you cannot know the strength that it took. And that was a long aisle. How wonderful then, that her new father-in-law was there half way down to take her hand and lead her to Harry.
Meghan’s mother was the essence of dignity, seated where she could see her daughter’s face as Harry and Meghan watched the preacher. Alone. With no other family members to support her as she sat in a situation so alien that even if you were reading it in a book you would struggle to conjure up the image.
Lisa Cole said this on Facebook, and boy was she right ‘Can we just take a moment to honour this beautiful, strong woman (Meghan Markle’s Mother, Doria Ragland) who sat alone, wistfully alone, a million miles from home -in a situation so foreign to her own life- with grace, dignity, poise, honour and deep love for the child she raised? THAT, is royalty’.
Bishop Michael Curry almost stole the show. His animated hands, his words of love, his inability (almost) to stop – this has never been seen at a Royal Wedding before and was a wonderful way to incorporate the fact that the bride was American and this was her type of worship. Twitter of course went wild, some of it good, some of it not so (we are so very British after all!). But Meghan’s face as she watched him, well…that really said it all.
While everyone else was talking about the dress (here come the boat necks) as Meghan exited that lovely Rolls Royce, I was poised to watch Harry’s face as he saw his bride. I always do this. You have never seen true love until you’ve seen a groom waiting at that alter see his bride for the first time. While everyone automatically turns to the bride, my eyes always find the groom and I have never been disappointed, it’s always very special.
So what have we learned from the Royal Wedding? That walking down the aisle alone is absolutely do-able. Scary, but do-able. That you don’t have to ask all of your friends to be bridesmaids, just ask the small people in your life (although if you don’t have a ‘child whisperer’ to amuse them during the ceremony you might be asking for trouble!). That you can, and should, do it your way and make sure whatever you believe in is represented on your big day. And most of all, that whether the person waiting at the other end is a Prince or not – you are walking towards the next great part of your life story ♥